More Than Meets The Eye

Think about the person that you think you know the best. The person that you could confidently say you know just about everything there is to know about them. You could complete their sentences, laugh at jokes that they tell don't make any sense to anyone else, and make eye contact with them and know just what they're thinking at that very moment. Think about that person. Now think about how it is, exactly, that you got to know them so well. Has it just been a cumulative thing over time? Have you had specific conversations with questions directed at learning more about them? How? Have you ever wondered that maybe there are things that you don't know about them? I don't mean things like what they're doing at this very second... of course you won't know that unless your right next to them watching their every move, but I mean things about them. Things that define them... define their character. Things that make them who they are. Things about their past, present and future. Hopes, dreams, and struggles. Do you know all of that? Well, here, let me answer for you...

NO.

And we probably won't ever know for the most part. They won't tell us everything thats inside of them. As humans we are inclined to lock up so many things. We are SO good at putting up walls and putting on masks to shut our real selves off from the rest of the world. I think so many of us are afraid to show what's really inside of us. Maybe it's because we're afraid of what others may think, or because that might prove that we aren't all so tough. Is it a bad thing to admit that we are weak? That we have vulnerable hearts and minds? What ever it is, someone's got to break down those walls and see through those masks. If you ever can... it will rock your world. Just look into their eyes. Eyes don't lie. As I mentioned in a previous blog, you can shut your mouth and quiet your mind, but your heart never stops speaking (from Always Look On The Bright Side Of Life). If there's any outlet for your heart, I would say it's through your eyes. As cheesy and cliche as this may sound, its completely true. I have been blessed a couple of times to just stare into the eyes of those who I thought I knew so much about. During a couple church trips I participated in an activity where we rotated around a room in two concentric circles, stopping at each person, face to face, and spent what seemed like for ever staring into their eyes. With the right introduction, an appropriate atmosphere, and all immature giggling from awkwardness thrown aside, we all began to cry. The entire group. With each person that we stood in front of, we became more overwhelmed with a feeling of such vulnerability and weakness. We were letting go all that was locked up within us and taking all of the weight off of our shoulders without saying a word. If there has ever been a moment when I knew God was present, it was right then and there, between two faces and flowing tears. Some of us tried to smile and act like we were okay, some of us tried to act like we had nothing to cry about, but looking into each others eyes we could all see how fake we really were and had always been. We hadn't necessarily learned more about each other, but we saw that we were all in the same boat. We all had weaknesses, failures, and downfalls that we had gotten sick of covering up for so long, and we were finally able to let them go. As good ol' Dr. Phil says almost every day at 4 o'clock, "you can't fix what you don't acknowledge!" I've found that to be very true in my life time, and its as simple as praying. My example of letting go of it all by staring into people's eyes may get you a black eye in return if its not set up properly, so I'm not necessarily instructing you to do that, but give it a shot with God. I mean really devote time to him sometime. Block out every distraction as best as you can and focus on Him. Dump all of your crap on Him... He can take it. Just give it a shot. When you finally get there, well... the feeling is indescribable. 

You might recognize this picture from the Blackout post i recently submitted. These are the same eyes as the black and white eyes hovering in the skyline of the city. So... I may have saturated the blue in her eyes a little bit for drama's sake, but its not that far off. C'mon, it looks cool right?

Garbage In, Garbage Out

So where do people get off just ditchin their trash just about everywhere BUT in the trash can? Is it really that hard to walk a few feet to the nearest trash can and take care of it there? Have we gotten THAT lazy? Have we lost all regard as to how our communities look and the image portrayed by them? Sure seems like a lot of us have become that way.

This is an issue that has really gotten on my nerves over the past few years so I'm just going to dive right in. When I see someone toss their crap on the ground and walk away without the slightest thought given to what they just did, there are a few things that come to mind. Call me judgmental, presumptuous... what ever, but they must not care about anything or anyone but themselves. They must expect the school slave...or I mean janitor... to come around and pick it up for them. They must think themselves above those few foot steps to the trash can. They must disregard the fact that others that share the community might care about how things look and that they might be interested in preserving or improving the wellness of the community. They must ignore, reject, and flip-the-bird to a lot of things with one small gesture such as this. 

Look, I know I don't live in Beverly Hills or Flintridge or South Pas or the upper portion of Altadena, but I don't live in the ghetto by any means, and I'd like to keep it that way for as long as I'm around and for as long as my family and friends are in this nice little (and booming) town of La Crescenta. I feel very blessed to live where I do with a good sized home, three pets, generally friendly neighbors, safe streets, cops that rest more than arrest for lack of anything better to do, and two of some of the most elite public schools in the nation... so blessed that I would do what I can to appreciate all of it and keep things the way they are. And I would REALLY appreciate it if others might give a rats patootie ( yea so that was corny... just go with it.) and take care of the community too. 

I've heard of studies that inquired what it is that turns nice comfortable neighborhoods into sketchy ghettos. One of the biggest contributing factors, as they found, was when a building (house, office, shop, etc.) is left vacant and run down for a prolonged period of time. If the property is unkept, trashed up, tagged on, littered on and left to rot... chances are thats a good glimpse of where the community is headed in the not so distant future. Some of you may know this as The Broken Window Theory. 

Now you may say "oh well c'mon... thats a little extreme. No ones going to let their quaint town turn into a trash dump that easily." Well I would hope not! But there's evidence every day that proves the theory to be true. Just within the last few years that I've been in high school I've seen waaay more people throwing trash all over the place. And just a few weeks ago I learned the story of the Pico Union District and how it used to be a pretty upscale place, but as families moved out and things weren't taken care of, things dove downhill and now its looked down upon as one of the worst areas of LA. So what do we do about it? Well, I've gotten a good sense of who reads my ranting and I don't think you guys are the ones that would trash up a place, so thanks for that! But next time your out and you see someone else dump something on the ground, try saying something... don't get yourself beat up, but if you don't feel threatened or uneasy about the person, tell them to pick it up. And if that doesn't work, then pick it up yourself and throw it away for them because you don't know who else is watching and that act may trigger a thought in their mind to clean up there act, so to speak. We really shouldn't let these things slip by because the more we do, the more the become a cultural pandemic. And when you think about it on a bigger scale, such carelessness and disregard leads to graffiti, even more foul language (now there's something to write a blog about), and just lower standards all together. Not to be a total pessimist, but I don't have a whole lot of hope for my generation, but maybe we can all work towards making the next generation a lot less selfless and a lot more courteous.